William Morris famously said “Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.” but how many of us actually adhere to this, very sensible rule?
We all have items in our house that we feel we should / we need / we ought to keep – for many different reasons.
But are they actually helping you enjoy your home?
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If you walk around your home and see things that actually you may not like or that are taking up too much space, then you will automatically feel down about the space.
Its this that we want to avoid if at all possible. If we can really get into the mindset of William Morris, and only keep things we love or truly need, then we will naturally have less, have to clean less, and feel more free – and what could be better than that!
In this post I want to look at the most common ways that people feel guilty about when they want to get organised and start to declutter.
Do any fit you and your home?…
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Decluttering guilt – Reason 1 – Don’t want to throw it away
Wasting things seems like a waste – literally!, and some people just can’t face throwing things away for this very reason.
But getting rid of things doesn’t have to mean throwing them away, far from it. Here are a few ways to get rid of things while still making them useful to someone:-
- Donate to Charity
- Give to friends who need the items
- Sell on Ebay (or similar site) and make some money back from the things you don’t want any longer
- Car boot sale
One persons trash is another persons treasure
Also – another way of thinking about the items that fall into this category are that they are actually as good as landfill in your home if you are not using them and they are dragging you down, if you think things are rubbish, then why keep rubbish in your home? – why would you want part of your home to be as good as the bin?!
This thought alone may be enough to start the ball rolling and give you a little motivation.
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Decluttering guilt – Reason 2 – Don’t want to waste my money
How many of us have bought things on a whim?
Clothes that we never wear, toys that are never played, jewellery and accessories never taken out of the box – I could go on and on.
The actual shopping trip may have been fun, but you are left with a sense of guilt about spending the money, and therefore think that keeping the items shows it wasn’t actually a waste really.
Basically – think about it another way – you have ALREADY SPENT THE MONEY. The money has gone. You have already done the waste part of this, so you need to move on and learn from this.
Usually its too late to get a refund, because it will take you a while to convince yourself that you really won’t use the item. You may think that you will use it in a few months, so it will sit in a cupboard and probably be forgotten about in the meantime. This is no good to anyone.
If you can tackle your unnecessary spending before it happens, then you won’t have to feel this guilt again.
So just get rid of the items that are causing you to feel this way, and move on – you will feel better for it.
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Decluttering guilt – Reason 3 – It was a present
People don’t give presents to others expecting anything in return. They are given to make the receiver feel good.
If you truly don’t like a gift, then accept it graciously (this is the part that really counts), and then think about a way that you could use the gift to give someone else happiness.
Think about creating a re-gifting box – any presents that you receive that you won’t use or don’t like can be put in here and given to someone who you think would really appreciate it at the appropriate time.
TIP – Please label all presents in the box with who gave you it originally – it would be awful to give them it back at a later stage….