She is struggling with where to start and what to do for the best – and in general feels that she has lost the way a bit.
My house is a mess, in fact my whole life is a mess. I have lost the will and am not keeping up with anything. I start writing it all down and then allotting time to it, but that is as far as I have got. Maybe I’m afraid of not keeping to the schedule and feeling like a failure. There is just so much to do. Do you have any tips or advice?
My answer is as follows – I really hope that it helps you as well if you are feeling the same.
Hi, Thanks so much for getting in touch, its good to hear from you , and I’m so sorry that you are feeling this way about your home. I think it may be a mix of a couple of reasons – overwhelm and procrastination. When your home feels out of control its really hard to decide where to start first, so you end up moving around the house thinking about what has to be done and getting stressed and depressed very quickly. I have been there (and still get there from time to time – there are always times when things get on top of us all – even the most organised people have emergencies and times that things are out of their control). The trick I would try is to organise as you go. Wherever you end up on day one (now), start there. It all needs doing at some point, so wherever you start is a good place – its the starting that counts. Say to yourself that you will spend 15 minutes only doing an organising task (whether its filling a bag with rubbish, charity stuff etc…. or cleaning a cupboard, or filing some documents) 15 minutes seems doable to most people – and not too overwhelming. I set the timer on my kitchen oven so that I know I won’t go over the time, and it sometimes helps to have a sense of urgency for these minutes so you get as much done as you can racing against the clock. A funny thing usually happens at this point though – you will have got over the massive hurdle of getting started, and actually more than likely will want to carry on, at least to ensure that what you have started gets finished. It feels great to finally be able to tick something off the list, and it can be a great motivator. Try the 15 minute trick and see how you go. Please don’t worry about scheduling in things as yet – simply getting started and actually doing things will help to keep you going, as you will instantly see a change in your home – a little a day really does add up very quickly and makes all the difference – you will get there.