Lots of people, myself included at times, start to declutter a space in our home with all good intentions. We want to create a space that only has what we need in it, one that works for us, and one that looks great as well. However, more often than not, there are things that we just can’t seem to declutter – however much we know we need to – and these are the things that end up simply moving from one space to another.
The job of decluttering the original space has been achieved – but in reality a lot of the clutter is still in your home. You have created a sticking point that can only cause more hassle further down the road.
So, today I want you to look at decluttering from another angle. Maybe you have cleared a space, and you should be rightfully proud of this, but if you have just moved things from one space to another – have you actually decluttered at all?
I used to be a huge fan of the TV series “Friends” – still love watching replays! – and I loved Monica with all her organising ways (of course!).
There was one episode that I really remember where no-one knew what was behind a specific cupboard door in her apartment. Of course, once everyone realised that Monica didn’t want them to open it, they had to find a way, and when they finally opened it they were amazed to see that it was jam packed full of stuff.
The tidy and neat and “nothing out of place” Monica, had her very own clutter! That cupboard was her sticking point.
Most of us have a space in our home where we have some sort of clutter – and usually this clutter is because we can’t decide what to do with it…
This quote is so true.
Clutter is in reality simply delayed decision making.
If something is not in the right place for you in your home, or isn’t needed at all in your home – then it’s there because your haven’t made a decision to act on it. You haven’t decided what should be done with it, and so it stays put – cluttering up the space in which it doesn’t belong.
It’s all too easy to keep delaying these decisions until you get to the point where something has to be done – and then you start to sort it out.
You may call it sorting, tidying, or decluttering – but the main result you are after is that the space you are focused on becomes a space where only what is needed there is left.
It can be a great feeling when a space has been decluttered – and you may well be able to sigh with relief that it’s done. But I hate to say it, please take a step back and check that you haven’t simply moved the issue to another space in your home…
If you haven’t been able to make a decision on certain items, chances are that they will now have been placed somewhere else in the house.
Chances are that they are now clutter there instead, and as such, you may not be feeling that great sense of relief after you have decluttered any space after all.
If you take away anything from this post today, it is that you need to be aware of what you are moving around your home when you tackle any decluttering/sorting project.
If you move clutter from one area to another, it is still clutter.
It will still weigh down on you, and your subconscious will always know that it’s there.
Not a great feeling, and not one that you would want to have after you have taken the time and effort to declutter a space in the first place.
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It’s hard to declutter certain things
Some things are of course easier than others to make these decisions about. Genuine rubbish probably doesn’t stay in your home for long, but when talking of sentimental items or things that have just become part of your home, things get harder to deal with.
That’s why decluttering can be so hard. We are trying to sort things that we maybe don’t want to have to deal with as yet.
Things get moved around – things look neater in one space, but more cluttered somewhere a little more out of the way.
It’s decluttering without actually decluttering.
I used to be great at this! – and then I realised that the negative feeling that I had before I decluttered hadn’t been alleviated after I had decluttered. I still had those feelings because I hadn’t actually decluttered properly. I had moved my stuff around so that I didn’t have to see the clutter anymore.
After all – out of sight – out of mind – isn’t that how the saying goes?
With clutter this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Clutter can literally weigh down on you if you avoid it.
So many people move things around their home, boxing it up so that they don’t have to make the hard decision about whether they keep it or not.
These boxes end up in the loft, or the garage, or the spare room – and they continue to clutter both your home and your mind.
You still know it’s there – however hidden away it is. You can’t feel free from it in reality until those hard decisions have been made. This is tough love, but it’s true.
I know that I feel lighter when every space in my house is clutter free (as much as possible anyway!), and I feel like there is a massive weight on my shoulders (literally) when my loft has been filled with clutter.
The weight felt is that of knowing there are still decisions to be made, work to be done, and time/energy/stress to use up in the process – and I hate that feeling so much.
Who wants to live like that permanently?
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What’s the answer?
The answer is to simply be more aware of where things are going when you take them from one area of your home to another.
If you are decluttering – then get any items out of the house as soon as you make the decision to do so. Don’t leave bags of items for charity/friends/to sell around your home for long as they are still clutter until they have gone.
If you are moving items to a different room – be honest as to the reason you are doing so. If you are genuinely moving it to it’s rightful place, then great! – but if you are moving it because it’s out of the way, and you can make a decision on it another day, you are creating a sticking point in your home that will only cause you more hassle in the future.
If you put off that decision – you will have to go through the decluttering process again, and again, and again, until you finally decide what to do with that item.
That means handling that item (one that you find hard to deal with) over and over – with all the associated feelings and thoughts you have, and even when you aren’t decluttering you will know that it’s there waiting for that decision to finally be made.
You will be weighed down until those decisions have been made.
So – next time you decide to have a tidy up/sort/declutter, make it easier on your future self by making decisions on everything in that space there and then,
Yes, of course it will be hard at times – that’s why the clutter is still there – but the more you do it, the easier it will get – and the more you will reap the benefits.
There will no longer be that dreaded space that you can’t bring yourself to look at – that sticking point that houses all your delayed decision in it just waiting for you….
You will finally take back control of that space, and will be well on the way to a clutter free life.
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A challenge for you…
Today I would love it if you walked around your home and identified where you tend to move items to that are too tricky to make decisions about.
Find your clutter sticking point.
It could be your loft / garage / basement / spare room / or a cupboard or space in each room…
Identify that this area is a stumbling block for you on the road to becoming clutter free – and set about the task of sorting this space out first.
It will be hard – but it will be so worth it.
Then, the next time you are wanting to move something into it – you can ask yourself whether it really belongs there, or are you just delaying the inevitable and giving yourself extra work and hassle in the process.
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For me, my sticking point used it be my loft. It was full of boxes of things I didn’t really need or use (hence why they were in the loft!), and items that I found hard to let go. But once I identified this and sorted it out (now I have only a few things up there that really do need to be there like Christmas Decorations) I felt a huge weigh off my shoulders. I thoroughly recommend not letting clutter move around the house and end up in a sticking point like this, and I wouldn’t go back!
Where is your sticking point? Do you have one? I’d love to know, so please leave a comment below…